I have to tell you the truth about being a modern mom and meditating. Your husband will tease you, your kids will think you are a bit daft and your friends- well, let’s just say if you casually let it drop in a conversation, a long uncomfortable silence will follow, as if you just confessed to being a shop-lifter or closet cross-dresser.
What IS the deal, folks? Mediating has become as mainstream as Doctor Who these days. Everyone knows the TARDIS, right? So why that awkwardness about being a mom and meditating? I dealt with these very issues when I was breastfeeding too- something so natural being an incredibly painful and awkward subject for others- even resulting in hostility, to deal with, so I kind of had that been- there- done-that attitude against the nay-sayers.
Jerry Seinfeld came out and said he meditated and it helped him be a better dad. Time magazine wrote that doctors are prescribing it to help with healing. Honestly, this practice has been around for ages, and not confined to the Eastern World. I started my journey into meditating a couple of years back, but after seeing the effects now, wished I had begun years ago.
Meditating is actually simple, once you learn how. It is the process of quieting your mind, and if you are like me and racing around like a chicken with its’ head cut off, this is incredible. I used to do the stare at a candle meditation- or a rock. Then it was focus on the breath. Now I prefer some ambience, like ocean waves, a bubbling stream or soothing piano (I love piano).
I mentioned in December that I have the Omvanna App on my phone (and no, I am NOT an affiliate), I just love the app. There are others out there when you do a search for meditation, so explore the options. But the one I use has 3 minutes, 16 minutes and up to 45 minute guided meditations, because all days are NOT created equal with early school runs or late pick ups or library drop offs- whew, I try to fit just a quiet mediation in daily.
And YES, it does work- my turning point came when the gas company forgot their delivery and scheduled a week later (and our gas was running on empty). And I did not lose my cool or snap at the girl on the line, or let slip a snide remark or even think about it- It felt amazing. LOVE IT! Yes, meditating makes me a better, healthier mom, heck, I am probably the quintessential modern meditating mom! Now if I could only get the kids to do it….
Things You Should Know Before You…Meditate
1. Set some time alone- even if it’s 3 minutes. Early morning and before bed seem to work best for me. Start with one minute, then work up to 3, 5 & 10 or more if you can. (please make sure your kids are safe while doing this!)
2. Set a timer in case you fall asleep- I do (fall asleep, I mean!)
3. You can focus on a single point- I started with a candle flame like they do in the Wii Fit. Or close your eyes.
4. Breathe and focus on your breaths- slow, deep breaths.
The time passes quickly!
Do you mediate?